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Should I Cut an Addict out of My Life?Whenever an addict is actively involved in one’s life, be it as a family member, significant other or close friend, it can be difficult to know how to go about handling the situation. Many people may wonder if they should cut the person completely out of their life or even just pretend the situation isn’t there.

The important thing to remember, in any of these instances, is that you are not the only individual who has ever had to face these decisions, and there are ways of coping with the problem.

Many times you may not even recognize the addiction for a long period of time. It is hard to see these issues in the people you hold most dear. Often times, the realization will come quickly, maybe in a single moment, and can be quite a shock. Then, when that realization is made, it seems terribly obvious, and you can’t believe that you haven’t noticed it or done anything about it.

You may wonder, particularly if they are a family member, if you are the cause of the addiction or if there was something you didn’t do. But this is not where your concentration should go, and you should instead forget about what cannot be changed and concentrate on the problem at hand.

It is normal to go through the following stages of shock when realizing a loved one in Anchorage is suffering from addiction:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Depression
  • Acceptance

The denial comes if you refuse to accept that the loved one has a problem. Then the anger is directed at them for becoming addicted in the first place. You may then become directly involved, bargaining with your loved one to not take drugs or alcohol anymore. When you realize the addiction is real, depression can set in, and, finally, acceptance comes when you finally understand the addiction for what it is.

Depending on the person and the situation, these steps can go very quickly or take a long time to occur. Giving yourself time is vitally important. Talk with other friends and family about the problem and do what you can to get your mind centered and calm.

But, most importantly, don’t stop at acceptance. If in an abusive situation, leave the house. If in an emotionally draining situation, get away. But don’t stop there.

Walking away should happen when there are no signs of hope, and when the addict has not shown a single indication of wanting to recover. At that point, do not hesitate to leave. You have done your job.

An Anchorage resident’s only job with an addict is this: make a call and get them help. By calling us, we can tell you what the options are, how to go about confronting their addiction, and what facilities are available to them to assist in their recovery. But don’t do this alone – reaching out is key to admitting the problem is real and addressing it.

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